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Self-Help Isn't Selfish

Friends, you might know I'm a podcast fanatic. Chances are, if you're reading this, I've probably sent you a link to a show or episode I thought you'd like. One of my favorites is Oprah's SuperSoul Conversations. For the past few weeks she's been doing a chapter-by-chapter tutorial with Eckhart Tolle on his book A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose. If you haven't already, I would highly recommend reading it; however, the material can be heavy. What's great about the podcast is Oprah and Eckhart break down important and sometimes difficult-to-process ideas into easily digestible wisdom nuggets. 

At the same time I just finished Martha Beck's Steering by Starlight: Find Your Right Life No Matter What. Based on these activities, it could appear that I'm struggling to find my life's purpose, but I'm actually good. Still, it's important to make sure your tools are sharp so I'm sharpening mine.

One of the exercises in St…
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Body: I could have eaten healthier and exercised more. I always feel better when these two things are part of my daily routine so I plan to do better at that in 2019.
Mind: I spent a lot of time feeling let down over rejection letters and thinking that I should scrap the whole damn idea of writing a book.
Spirit: I didn't make time for meditation every day, and I really need to do that.

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A L M O S T everything I write about comes from something I heard on a podcast or read in a book or heard from someone smarter than myself. Since, I read a lot of books and listen to a lot of podcasts and chat with several smart people, I don't always remember the exact source of the information. Plus, many of my favorite authors and podcasters share similar information in different ways so it could be a conglomeration of sources. 

All that to say, I heard an interesting notion this morning, but I can't remember where. Here it is: The tools you use to get through the first half of life are not the same tools you'll need to get through the second half. If you're not approaching the second half of your life, this may not feel as mind-blowing for you as it did for me. The thing is, my dad lived to be 94, and my mom is 87. Genetics give me a good 40+ years to go, as I wade into the moderately warm waters of midlife. This made me think about how some tools I acquired serve…

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